When giving a massage it is best to be comfortable and relaxed. Whenever you are giving a massage to your lover or you are being intimate with a partner, they will sense what you feel. If you are stressed, they will get stressed too. If needed you can do a little meditation session before the massage. You may want to return into the now moment by taking a few deep breaths deep into your lower abdomen, to relax your body and mind.

The best oils you can use are natural ones, like for food. You can buy fondue or gourmet oil very cheap and then add a scent like patchouli.