PLEASURE YOU NEED TO LEARN
The scenario is always the same: after a hot evening together your beloved is sleeping satisfied while you are staring at the ceiling wondering why you did not have orgasm? You are asking yourself : Is there something wrong with me?
It begins great. You are excited, you start to make love... He sighs loudly, you are ready for something wonderful and... It is done. He kisses you saying that it was great and falls asleep. If you think that your problem is unique, you are wrong...
Research conducted in the U.S. shows that at least one third of women do not have pleasure during the first sexual intercourse with a new partner. In contrast to men, ladies must learn how to feel the pleasure. Is it easy? Not always. Is it worth an effort? Of course! The female orgasm is incomparable to anything else, engages all the senses and the whole body! So be patient and your patience will be rewarded.
Learning how to get an orgasm is a complex, multi level process.
On the road to pleasure the first stage is arousing. In this case, crucial are both factors: psychological (you should be attracted to your partner, feel comfortable and excited) and physical (proper petting and caresses). If something goes wrong (i.e. you will be too nervous or your lover will give you pain instead of pleasure) your body will not allow you to experience orgasm.
Most women goes through the first phase successfully. Problems arise later - in the plateau phase. Imagine situation like this: your excitement reaches a constant level, the blood goes faster in your veins, your nipples are hard and the entrance to your vagina is moist and slippery. Your body gives you a sign that you are ready to reach the top of pleasure but… orgasm does not come. How does it make you feel? You get stressed and irritated and you think “I am not gonna get there”. And probably you are right… Remember, the more tensed you are the smaller chances you have to get what you want.
Sexologists call this kind of problem anorgasmia. You are physically capable to experience pleasure but impatience, lack of time, “fast” partner" does not allow you to move to the final - orgasm phase.
What can you do about it?
Since the plateau phase varies form one person to another, it is impossible to tell how long it should last. However, you have to remember that most women needs at least 15 minutes to warm up before even coming close to the plateau phase. Therefore, how can you experience an orgasm?
First of all, extend the foreplay as much as possible. If your partner is already almost on the edge, take a little brake. Try to cuddle, or let him caress your body. Remember that women need more time to warm up, but they do not lose their excitement as fast as most men do.
It is important for you to stop focusing on reaching the climax. Stop analysing and stressing yourself up. Try to relax, lower your guard and go with the flow. Let your partner slowly take you to the Eden of pleasure. Be spontaneous and forget yourself in love.
There will be a moment when you notice that your excitement is no longer growing. No reason to panic, it simply means that the plateau phase has just begun. Take it slowly and enjoy the moment. If everything goes fine after the plateau phase you will feel how a hot shivers run through your body and than you will know how does the orgasm taste. The relaxation phase is a piece of cake. Calm and satisfied fall asleep in the arms of your partner.
No mater how long it will take you to reach the climax, remember that it is worth waiting and practicing.