SECRET OF AN AMAZING SEX LIFE LIES…
... in the head. It is a complex collage of needs, feelings and longings.
Female sexuality is based on narcissism. Temporary lack of sexual appetite does not necessarily mean trouble with temperament. Some even claim, that in case of women we should not talk about a high or low libido, but more about different forms of libido. Women's desire is sometimes fussy, sophisticated and subtle. A woman in contrast to man does not want simply beautiful, naked male body. She wants man’s character, temperament and soul. She needs to watch the one who admires her body while taking off her underwear. Woman needs to delight in the sight of man. Man’s desire is for woman like an oxygen. An awareness that he wants her and only her help woman to become a goddess of pleasure in the bedroom.
Woman’s desire is sophisticated and narcissistic. It feeds itself with admiration.
As surveys shown that woman needs to feel safe with man therefore she will create kind of bond, emotional closeness. The same we can observe in the results of researches on women attitudes towards porn movies. Apparently women enjoy the most those movies which has a plot and which shows bond existing between lovers.
For woman it is especially important that in the eyes of a man she is special. She is the one who is the most important. - For years there was a view that women's libido is associated with love and affection towards partner up to much higher degree that in case of men - say American psychologist Esther Perel and Marta Meana. - However, latest research shows that it is particularly exciting for a woman to fantasize that the man wants her as anything else in the world. That he cannot resist her and he cannot control his desire. When a woman in her fantasies imagines that she is naked or dressed up sexy, in fact she really sees herself through the eyes of man. She wants him to admire her face, smooth skin, curves, the way she smiles, she moves.
- According to Brazilian philosopher and psychotherapist this need to be the subject of male desire is associated with the fact that female sexuality is deeply narcissistic and autoerotic. - Is widely believed that a woman wants to be beautiful for a man. Most women achieve sexual satisfaction only when they feel that their bodies are objects of male desire. That also make the gap between the feminine and masculine sexuality. For man the view of the naked female body is mostly exciting enough to make him ready for a sexual intercourse. For woman the view of the most beautiful male body is not enough. She needs to know who he is and if she can admire him. However, the most exciting for her is to see how she makes him excited. – To sum up, the basis of sexual desires of women is to be the object of her partner desire.
You must remember that the female libido is a delicate thing. Just like a woman it has its moods and feelings. It can be easily frighten, ignored or misunderstood. - In the classic sexology, invented by men, the norm is that the desire (bigger or smaller) just exists. When it is not there it is a pathological state that should be a subject of treatment. However, when we talk about women this approach is too simplicity. From the ancient Indian and Egyptian writings we know that even our ancestors acknowledged that female desire is related to the lunar cycles, it comes and goes. From the end of menstruation to ovulation it increases and after having its peak it decreases.
In addition, our sexual personalities differ as much as character and appearance. We do not see anything strange in the fact that people differ in things like height, eye colour or intelligence. Sometimes they are tired, sometimes sad, and at other times joyful and happy. When it comes to sex, we assume that everybody should have the same potential and needs. All the time. Around the clock. And yet our lives are changing, we change. The same applies to our temperament. It is not given once and for all. Listen to your body, observe yourself and accept its own way to achieve pleasure. Like this you will find the way to flourish sexually.