What should we wear when visiting a swingers club or going on a swing date?
Dress to impress, most people will find t-shirt and sneakers 'not proper' for a swingers club. Wearing sexy lingerie is not only more passionate, but also helps in accentueting your best spots. A well cared figure and look is always the most attractive and should be a priority for everybody. Obesity and an unkempt look will not get you many admiring looks. When visiting a club, make sure to check the dress code. Some clubs like to start the evening as a fancy cocktail party where others prefer everyone to be in lingerie from the start. As you will be in close proximity to other people it is obvious that you have showered, etc. before arriving at the club. Guests come for each other, so make sure you show yourself at your best!
What if I meet someone I know in a swingers club?/What if someone recognizes my profile on a site for swingers?
If this happens it will be a surprise for both parties. They are also expanding their horizon and looking for like minded people. Greeting each other is the best thing to do. Most of these meetings will result in a better relationship with this acquaintance.
Can our relationship be damaged after we visit a swingers club?
On the contrary, most relationships improve afterwards. If however you are going to a swingers club trying to 'fix' your relationship there is a big change it will have to opposite effect. As with any good sexual relationship it is all about communication. If your relationship is strong it will grow stronger.
Is changing of partner obligatory in a swingers club?
Absolutely not! It's all up to you and if you meet a couple you like. You are free to experience your own erotic adventure without getting other people into it. But most of people will come to a club to meet other couples who enjoy similar lifestyles.
What is the difference between soft and full swap?
Let's start with the more easier one. Full swap is refering to interactions where all parties involved freely engage in sexual intercourse. Most commonly it means that if two couples meet up everyone is ok with both men penetrating both women.
A lot of time a distinction between 'same room', 'separated rooms' and 'dating alone' is made. When specifying full swap in the same room, people are indicating that they would love to see their partner having pleasure and often it also means that they love to have the interaction as a 4-way instead of a 2 by 2. Whereas just full swap is more used towards interactions where partners are exchanged and then both have a more individual intimate experience. Dating alone is used by couples who are sexually free and do not mind that their partner joins another couple or person without them having to be there.
Unlike full swap, soft swap has a lot nuances. In most cases it is used to indicate that intimacy and sexuality with all parties involved is ok, but the intercourse is reserved for your partner. However, in many cases it get's even softer where it is okay for the women to be intimate with eachother, but the men are only allowed to be close to their partner.
And last but not least, all these terms are just rough boundaries. A lot of people tend to jump from one definition to another and on top of this take into account different safety boundaries where for example it might be that penetration with condom is okay, but oral sex is not.